This will be my first Christmas that I won't be visiting family. After the fiasco that was Thanksgiving, not one person has called me, sent me an email, or a text message saying anything about it. I don't want to go sit in my aunts house and fake it just to exchange presents and gobble down some food. People need to realize they can't say the shit they did one minute, then act like everything is okay the next day, because it's not. The words that were exchanged hurt me. The words that weren't exchanged hurt me even more.
We'll be waking up at my mother's while A opens up her gifts from Santa. I am due at 10 am with A to my dad's house. I'll take her over there for her three hour visit before returning back to my mom's house. My mom will be taking the kidlet to my aunt's house, because she's oblivious to the hate for now. I'm not sure what NYEBoy and I will do. I might go visit a friend, or perhaps do some much needed studying.
It'll be different, for sure, but one of these years I'll get my ideal Christmas' back. I'll wake up with my kids on Christmas morning and take them to their grandma's house, where they won't have to worry about being yelled at or listen to their aunt talk shit about their mother.
What do you do for Christmas? Are you dealing with a dysfunctional family or have you cut ties as well? Or better yet, do you have that perfect Christmas? Tell me about it.
5 comments:
I just found your blog and having been raised by my own aunt after my mother choose drugs and other things I have to say I've always wished for a perfect christmas.
I wish that for you!
Merry christmas
Good decision for you... you don't need to be treated that way. Enjoy your Christmas without that drama.
We do Christmas eve with my inlaws, who are a major pain in the ass. I keep holding out the olive branch, but always regret doing so when I find myself hiding in the garage for a moment of peace, usually in tears. It's made me hate the holidays, which makes me sad.
Hang in there. It has to get better, somehow, sooner or later.
We've cut ties with the crazy side of the family (my husband's bipolar, alcoholic mother.). Things have gotten much easier without dealing with her. I highly recommend it. I hope everything goes okay with very little stress for you and A.
Here from ICLW. I think everyone wishes they had a perfect family to celebrate holidays with, but I don't know anyone who does. In fact, we had my husband's get together last weekend and 1/2 of the family left angry at each other. Not like the movies... :)
Merry Christmas anyways!!!
Ah, the holidays! I think you've made the right decision to honor yourself and your own feelings and set the limits that you need. I hope you have a wonderful holiday!
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